Angel Incarnate

 

Dear angel incarnate,

 

Your omnipresent love

Is the wind at my back

And the sun on my cheeks.

 

Your unfailing devotion

Lifts me above adversity

And fills me with courage.

 

Your fierce protection

Shelters me from harm

And fills me with confidence.

 

Your tireless energy

Provides fuel for my tank

And exhilarates my soul.

 

Your beautiful spirit

Foretells a life of tenderness

And adoration untold.

 

Your delicate heart

Opens in vulnerability…

….and is safe in my embrace.

Only Tomorrows

Hold me to your chest,

Erode away yesterdays

With the winds of change.

 

Breathe life in my ears,

Exchanged for sighs of distress

That used to burden.

 

On sturdy shoulders

You carry away the pain;

The wisdom survives.

 

In your acceptance

Only our love matters now;

Only tomorrows.

 

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Happy Birthday, sweetheart.

Love Absolute

Love, absolute
Bears beauty in creation,
Fired in a kiln of passion.
It is formed by the hands of lovers
Like a potter’s masterpiece
Made perfect by its exquisite flaws.

Love, Absolute
Swaths us in sunbeams,
Coddles our hearts tenderly.
It is held by the arms of partners
Like a baby swaddled in blankets
And made safe in the bosom of love.

Love, Absolute
Reveals the path to wholeness
In the sum of our great parts.
It is sewn together by the minds of darlings
Like a vast puzzle once bewildering
Made complete by destiny’s union.

Broken and Beautiful

We are all broken.

Life is full of beautiful, wonderful experiences. It is also inevitably peppered by challenge and difficulty; that seasoning being heavier for some than others. Our struggles may have marred our childhoods, adolescences, adulthoods, or all of the above. Arguably, some of the most severely impacted are those who had abusive childhoods or experienced profound illness or the death of someone close to them. The most jarring trials frequently involve pain and damage caused by those we love – parents, spouses, etc. We surface with baggage: insecurity, self-doubt, disappointment, anxiety, mistrust, heartache, unforgiveness, anger, resentment, and so on. In short, we emerge broken.

One of the themes I’ve consistently written about is the concept of finding opportunity in our struggles. I believe that while none of us wants to struggle or experience pain, we always have a choice in the way we deal with those challenges. We get to choose our reactions and our actions. We may use our adverse circumstances to induce lessons learned, or we can hide them deep inside us and allow the pain to poison us. I want to take this notion a step further.

We all have brokenness – our life’s struggles cannot and should not be compared; we are all different and are all impacted differently by what we experience. Still, we can look at the similarities and bonds that connect us rather than judging one another. When used for good, for positive change, for building relationships, for creating opportunity, our brokenness is not all for naught. Our brokenness can in fact become beautiful.

The Japanese art of Kintsugi involves repairing cracked, broken pottery using molten gold. The Japanese believe that the damaged pottery, with its mended fractures and breaks, is even more beautiful and valuable than before. This is a very meaningful metaphor for each of our lives, and the scars and cracks in our beings which result from our ordeals. In giving ourselves the permission to work through and heal from those trials, we may in fact emerge stronger and more complete than before.

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In order to utilize the pain of our circumstance to create beauty, we must find repair; healing, forgiveness, growth. We must also accept in ourselves and each other the reality and asset of our brokenness. In our lives, we can benefit from these two choices to catalyze amazing transformation.

As imperfect human beings, we are so often afraid to face and share our brokenness, even though none of us is complete and faultless. We set unattainable expectations of ourselves and each other. I have long felt that when we seek and choose positive and effective relationships, we find the strength to heal and the desire to grow, but this starts with openness and communication, which takes time and comfort. These uplifting and bolstering relationships can be of any type, but ultimately we should ideally choose to share our lives with people with whom we can be ourselves, and who bestow upon us acceptance and support. And, in the context of a romantic partnership, an ideal mate accepts us without judgment and loves us in our brokenness; helps us to see our value, encourages us to aspire to change and greatness. This is very different than a mate who demands change, who points at our weaknesses and brokenness and calls us inadequate. Rather, it is a choice we make for ourselves; to want to be better and have better for ourselves, and that desire is based on love and acceptance. We are pushed to be extraordinary.

Perhaps we were never meant to be flawless and uninjured – we can use our experience and pain and turn it into wisdom and opportunity. In embracing our flaws and imperfection, allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, we can uncover profound beauty and value within ourselves, and discover opportunity to achieve the successes and attitudes we strive for. In our restoration, we are stronger and more precious than before.

Perhaps we were never meant to be complete and self-sufficient – in sharing our pain and experience with others and accepting our need for them, we exchange this wisdom, offer acceptance and inspire evolution and advancement in our own and others’ lives. And, not only do we grow and nurture others, we benefit these relationships with deep intimacy, too.

We are beautiful in our brokenness.